Forgiveness is the key to Happiness – Part II
Sometimes life gives you much of happiness and much of displeasure as well, it maintains the equilibrium. As we learn to live life, with the facts of life we would be more open to accept them and find the happiness wherever we could. A hurtful sentence or a word is good enough to break a relationship in just a matter of few seconds or minutes but it takes time to mend that relationship again. If we become nicer to others, you can expect them to be nicer to you as well. When someone hurts you, it becomes difficult to let go but we ought to learn the fact that there is no solution to it except for the fact that we forgive the person and move on. If you are still having some hard time letting go off the pain, relieving it beneath deep down under your heart, here are some of the tips that might help you to cope up:
- Commit yourself to let go off the pain for whatever bad things have happened to you. I know, it’s not just a one-day process. It will take its own time to heal and as time moves on you will agree that you made a better decision.
- Weigh your problems, does the problems in your life are the main causes because that person misbehaved with you. If you accept and feel that this is having a bad effect on your marriage, or other persons in your life and
stopping you from pursuing your dreams than there is every good reason that you need to change your life and also the attitude towards life. You may think of the benefits that will come to you if you agree to forgive a person and how the change is going to bring you happiness in your life. - Have control over your thoughts and actions. You cannot change other’s behavior or attitude and cannot control them in your own way but you surely have a choice by controlling your behavior and attitude. Stop relieving the pain factor in your life and just move on.
- Empathize with that person who has hurt you; understand that why he did this to you. Put yourself in the person’s position and start thinking of the reasons that might have forced him to take this action. Whatever has happened is not right, for sure, but you can surely understand the situation that can bring peace in your heart.
- Understand that you might be responsible for the situation as well. It is not always the case but in case if you empathize you will realize the facts.
- Do not reflect too much on past, now that you have realized what has happened, for what reasons even if it was a bad experience start focusing on the present situations that are being offered to you.
- No one has control over your happiness, unless you allow entering peace in your life. You are the master of your own happiness. Nothing or no one can do anything to bring happiness in your life. Do some breathing exercises that might help you to focus over things and bring rhythm to your life.
Forgiving a person is not making any good to that person, but it is YOU. You are forgiving that person for your own happiness and peace of mind. Let go off the rude behavior of people towards you in life, stay calm and happy and stay tuned to your ethics and roots of life.
Forgiveness is the key to Happiness – Part I
